You have been dating your Asian partner for a while now and like it or not, at some point, you will have to meet your partner’s Asian parents for the first time.
Meeting the parents especially of an interracial partner is something most people dread. One thing people worry about most is whether they will accept you for being a person of different race. And their acceptance might affect your relationship one way or another.
There is no reason to think that they wouldn’t like you if their daughter or son likes you. Today, most parents don’t meddle much in the dating choices of their children. They let them feel free to choose whoever they want to date.
So how do you get yourself ready for that dreaded first meeting?
1. Learn a thing or two about your partner’s Asian parents
When you begin dating, take an interest in your partner’s family, especially if you are planning to be together for the long-term. Family is very important within the Asian community. This will definitely show that you are committed to him or her and that you are looking forward to being part of their family.
Find out their likes and dislikes and ask your partner the dos and donts you need to be on the lookout for.
2. Don’t be on first name basis with them
Refer to them as Mr. and Mrs. It shows respect which is very important to Asians.
3. Buy a gift
You will definitely score high points if you bring something for the first visit. Ask your partner about what will be appropriate to carry. It doesn’t have to be something expensive. Even cake will do the trick.
4. Familiarize yourself with some of their traditions
First off, dress in a modest way. Another thing with most Asian homes is that people remove their shoes when getting into the house. So talk to your partner so he or she can fill you in.
5. Don’t be too touchy
We understand you are in love. Avoid public displays of affection in front of the Asian parents. Save that kissing for after the visit. Discretion shows respect.